Read More at Well+Good [[{“value”:” Have you ever talked to someone who seems to think the world is against them? No matter the situation, if there’s a negative outcome for them, they always claim it’s someone else’s fault. Maybe you feel like you’re running out of advice to give them because of their seemingly endless misfortunes. Knowing how to identify when someone is actually getting the short end of the stick versus playing the victim and how to stop this behavior in its tracks is essential for protecting your well-being. As it turns out, those who play the victim are often seeking sympathy or attention in the people whom they subject to their victim mentality. After all, you’re probably more likely to help someone out if you think they’re facing a constant onslaught of bad luck… but for those playing…
7 Steps to Help You Deal with Anger After 60
Read More at Sixty and Me [[{“value”:” Anger is natural, but when it builds up in us, it can be incapacitating, causing us to lash out at others, or lash out at ourselves and lead to depression. When anger threatens to overwhelm your day, here’s a way you can shift your mood and carry on, without telling yourself that you, “shouldn’t feel angry.” Growing up in the 50s, I heard the subtle – and sometimes not-so-subtle – message: “Nice girls shouldn’t be angry.” I learned to swallow my anger and allow it to rest, like bile, inside of me. Anger and outrage aren’t bad – in fact, at times, they’re appropriate. Violence against women and girls should make us angry. But let’s use our anger to act, not stockpile it in our guts. The approach that follows isn’t an alternative…
4 Positive Ways to Deal with Loneliness Over the Holidays
Read More at Sixty and Me We can be sailing along just fine – independent, self-contained, pursuing our own interests, plenty of friends, regular contact with family members – and then boom! – the holidays come upon us and we feel like our ship starts to sink. There are sparkly lights and jolly decorations everywhere. Holiday music is being blared in whatever public place we enter. Everywhere, the billboards, magazine covers, window displays and television commercials say to us, “See? See the happy families? The homes full of happy people? The warm gatherings of good friends? The wealth being liberally distributed by everybody? Except, um, you?” And you start feeling financially constricted and alone. You feel that you are not keeping up with ‘everybody else.’ When you live alone, these sinking feelings can really pull you down. After all, there…
It’s Totally Normal To Feel More Tired in the Winter—Here’s Why (and How To Deal)
Read More at Well+Good The chill of winter (at least, in most places) can make it oh-so-appealing to pass your free time hibernating indoors, maybe even wrapped in a blanket with a cup of tea. In that state, spending some extra time sleeping or taking a mid-afternoon snooze is just that much easier to do than in summer, when you’re more likely to be out and about. But it isn’t just greater proximity to the bed or couch that makes us crave more sleep in the winter. The season’s shifts in light and temperature also influence our circadian rhythm, leaving us physiologically more tired in the winter. That’s right, feeling more tired and sleeping more in the winter isn’t just a product of feeling overall less motivated to go outside. It’s a real thing largely triggered by the change in…
All Your Coworkers Quitting? Here’s How To Deal When You’re the One Left Behind
Read More at Well+Good It’s never been more popular to quit your job than it was in 2021 (at least since 2000, when the Bureau of Labor Statistics began tracking that number). As it turns out, the still-ongoing Great Resignation isn’t a resistance to work, but more accurately, to bad work—such as jobs with minimal pay or opportunities for growth, or jobs that workers realized didn’t align with their values, newly underscored by the pandemic. While many of the job quitters became job swappers, taking on more fitting roles, the upheaval has still helped thin out teams across the board, leaving many short-staffed and overburdened. According to a recent survey of 1,800+ workers conducted by jobs platform Monster, 61 percent say that their workplace is experiencing staffing shortages—and it’s reasonable to assume that the biggest shortages are hitting the workplaces…